Conversations with Abhiraj Arora

Since now I have ample of time (which I am wasting away in the greens of Lakhimpur),so I decided to share  a few gems of conversations which I had with Abhiraj for the help of "Future Generations".
 
Part I - Familiarity breeds contempt

The first time I mentioned this idiom to Abhiraj, he started with  his usual act of Mocking all things which I say,in any context whatsoever.

I remember , we were in some crowded place, a mall or something, and Abhiraj was like "I can ask n number of people here and I am quite sure nobody knows what it means".And, he even asked many people later in office and thank God there was this one Guy who knew this phrase.

Anyhow,sanity prevailed and as we discussed "Familiarity breeds contempt" at length  we found the concept to be so true especially while examining our very own lives.

For my part,I had seen some similar sort of thing happening during my B.Tech. days.In College, during first year specially during the first months, a lot many people came together, behaved their best, formed groups but slowly as if a review process works people segregated as they became familiar to each other.

The western concept of a live-in relationship also stems from the same principle wherein two people who think that they want to live together for life(Though that is rarely the case) try to check out their compatibility by living together for a short time.In short,they check will there be a development of contempt from either party as they become familiar to each other.

The basic reason underlying  is I believe is one of mankind's inherent trait - To Fake it.This is what we all learn from our childhood, to be on our best behavior when we meet meet new people.And this is what shadows the actual identity of a person when we meet him/her for the first time or during the initial days of acquaintance.And hence, you might get impressed by someone only to realize later how wrong you were and this deceiving tactic generates loathing or contempt.

Though I must admit that the whole idea is based on the premise that there exists something loathsome or contemptuous in the fellow individual.

Dictionary defines contempt as "The feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.". So, if there is nothing to be scorned off,voila,you are free from the burden of "upcoming contempt" which is waiting around the corner but that is rarely the case.Passionate lovers can though take the help of this argument to hide their psychological and sexual dependency on their lovers and get on but not most of the sane people.