Do I know you ?

“Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another?

We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?”

― Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle

Murakami in the above mentioned lines has easily broken the deceptive notions that we generally develop about knowing people.Basically, what it means is that all you people who are living 'happily' under the impression that "I know my Husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend/friend/son/daughter etc. well", kindly come to your senses.Moreover, don't even think that investing more time and energy in the person will yield you some better results.

Because no matter what one does it is impossible to reach the depths of human mind and all the more impossible when most of the times even the possessor of the brain is unaware of the depths himself/herself.A classic example of the Johari window concept.

And even if ,somehow, one gets to know someone well enough, still the question remains for how long will the information remain relevant ? Aren't we all changing all the time.Even our body cells are not the same ones over the time then how can our feelings or thoughts can remain the same as these alter even more frequently depending upon internal/external stimuli etc. .

For example, if it had not been so, couples who have had love marriages would not get separated years after their marriages.After all, their marriage is based on the simple understanding that they have deciphered each other and hence "know" their partners thoroughly.

Thus, I believe the notion of knowing someone "well" is more like a superstition and acts in the same way sweet tonics given to Hypochondriac patients work: Satisfy their anxiety and allay their fears.